Outside of attending direct services, I recommend clients, supervisees, and consultees to enhance their experience through a combination of resources including materials in print, on the internet, and in person. Please consider all of these materials for your review. I select these resources based on my own professional experience and do not receive any compensation for their promotion.
Please do not solicit me to add resources or links to this page. I will ignore your solicitation and will not respond.
Please do not solicit me to add resources or links to this page. I will ignore your solicitation and will not respond.
Helpful Workshops
Hold Me Tight® Workshops - web link
- For couples who aren't ready for therapy or would like a workshop format of Hold Me Tight or Emotionally Focused Therapy, Hold Me Tight workshops are held throughout the United States, and offer an abbreviated experience of EFT that is shown in studies to positively impact participating couples. This can also be a helpful addition to being in EFT as a couple or family. Additionally, there is now an on-demand version of this workshop at www.holdmetightonline.com
- Hold Me Tight® NC is where I facilitate these workshops
- For couples who need a dose of education about what science says matters most to having a happy and healthy relationship, the Gottman Institute offers 2-day in-person and online Art and Science of Love workshops.
- I recommend https://www.connectcouplestherapy.com/ for these workshops
Helpful Literature
For Clients
On Couples Relationships & Marriage
Hold Me Tight®: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman
On Sex
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It by Marty Klein
Come as Your Are by Emily Nagoski
On Affairs & Affair Recovery
Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass
After The Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust After a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman & Nan Silver
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From An Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful by Linda MacDonald
On Parenting & Families
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
Raising A Secure Child
On Divorce & Co-Parenting
The Truth About Children and Divorce by Robert Emery
Two Homes, One Childhood by Robert Emery
The Co-Parents' Handbook by Karen Bonnell
Divorce (or Not): A Guide by Joseph Shaub
On Step Families
Surviving and Thriving in Step Family Relationships by Patricia Papernow
The Step Family Handbook by Karen Bonnell and Patricia Papernow
On Addiction
Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, & Threatening by Robert Meyer
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change by Jeffrey Foote et al.
Over The Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Managing Drugs and Alcohol by Patt Denning et al.
On Stress and Resiliency
It's Not Always Depression by Hillary Jacobs Hendel
Living Like You Mean It by Ron Frederick
On Happiness
Love 2.0 by Barbara Frederickson
Triumphs of Experience by George Vallaint
For Therapists
On Therapy, Generally
Persuasion and Healing by Jerome Frank
The Art of Psychotherapy by James Bugental
Therapist Performance Under Pressure by Christopher Muran and Catherine Eubanks
The Heart & Soul of Change: Delivering What Works by Duncan et al
Handbook of Psychotherapy and Behavior Change edited by Michael Lambert
Psychotherapy Relationships That Work (Vol 1 & 2) edited by Norcross & Wampold
Common Factors in Couple and Family Therapy edited by Sprenkle et al
The Great Psychotherapy Debate by Bruce Wampold
How and Why are Some Therapists Better Than Others? edited by Castonguay & Hill
The Cycle of Excellence: Using Deliberate Practice to Improve Supervision and Training edited by Rousmaniere et al
The Person of the Therapist Training Model: Mastering the Use of Self edited by Aponte & Kissil
On Emotionally Focused Therapy
Creating Connection: The Practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Couples by Susan Johnson
Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist: The Workbook by Furrow et al
Emotionally Focused Family Therapy by Furrow et al
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy by Johnson & Campbell
Attachment Theory in Practice by Sue Johnson
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors by Susan Johnson
Stepping Into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy by Lorrie Brubacher
On Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy
The Undoing of Aloneness and Transformation of Suffering into Flourishing: AEDP 2.0 edited by Diana Fosha
The Transforming Power of Affect by Diana Fosha
Restoring Resilience by Eileen Russel
The Healing Power of Emotion edited by Diana Fosha
On Addiction
Addiction as an Attachment Disorder by Philip Flores
Sex Addiction as Affect Regulation by Alexandra Katehakis
Motivational Interviewing by William Miller and Bill Rollnick
Motivating Substance Abusers to Enter Treatment: Working With Family Members by Jane Smith
Harm Reduction Psychotherapy by Andrew Tartarsky
Part of the Rest of My Recommended Book Pile
The Barefoot Helper by Mark Hamer
The Gift of Therapy by Irvin Yalom
Emotion Focused Therapy for Complex Trauma by Sandra Paivio
The Marriage Clinic by John Gottman
Maps of Narrative Practice by Michael White
The Art of Psychotherapy by Anthony Storr
Changing Character by Leigh McCullough Vallaint
Co-Creating Change by Jon Frederickson
Co-Creating Safety by Jon Frederickson
The Shadow of the Tsunami and the Growth of the Relational Mind by Philip Bromberg
Dialogical Meetings in Social Networks by Seikkula and Arnkil
Reaching Through Resistance by Allan Abbass
Assessing Adult Attachment: A Dynamic-Maturational Approach to Discourse Analysis by Patricia Crittenden
The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism and the Problem of Domination by Jessica Benjamin
My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem
The Tree of Knowledge by Maturana and Variela
Mothers and Others by Sarah Blaffert Hrdy
The Origin of Humanness in the Biology of Love by Maturana and Verden-Zoller
The Great Mental Models by Farnam Street
How Emotion is Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett
The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haight
Tribe by Sebastian Junger
On Couples Relationships & Marriage
Hold Me Tight®: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
- I recommend this book for all couples who intend to enter Emotionally Focused Therapy. Couples who read this in advance of EFT seem to get a nice "bump" in understanding the road map of this approach. There is also an audio book format via Audible (Audible link), and there is a format of this book, Created for Connection, written specifically for those who would like a Christian framework of EFT and Hold Me Tight (Amazon link, Audible link)
- This workbook is a very practical compliment for structured home practice of Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy. Highly recommended for couples motivated to engage in the exercises outside of therapy sessions.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman
On Sex
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex--and How to Get It by Marty Klein
Come as Your Are by Emily Nagoski
On Affairs & Affair Recovery
Not "Just Friends": Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley Glass
After The Affair: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust After a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Abrahms Spring
What Makes Love Last? by John Gottman & Nan Silver
How to Help Your Spouse Heal From An Affair: A Compact Manual for the Unfaithful by Linda MacDonald
On Parenting & Families
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel
Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman
Raising A Secure Child
On Divorce & Co-Parenting
The Truth About Children and Divorce by Robert Emery
Two Homes, One Childhood by Robert Emery
The Co-Parents' Handbook by Karen Bonnell
Divorce (or Not): A Guide by Joseph Shaub
On Step Families
Surviving and Thriving in Step Family Relationships by Patricia Papernow
The Step Family Handbook by Karen Bonnell and Patricia Papernow
On Addiction
Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, & Threatening by Robert Meyer
Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change by Jeffrey Foote et al.
Over The Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Managing Drugs and Alcohol by Patt Denning et al.
On Stress and Resiliency
It's Not Always Depression by Hillary Jacobs Hendel
Living Like You Mean It by Ron Frederick
On Happiness
Love 2.0 by Barbara Frederickson
Triumphs of Experience by George Vallaint
For Therapists
On Therapy, Generally
Persuasion and Healing by Jerome Frank
The Art of Psychotherapy by James Bugental
Therapist Performance Under Pressure by Christopher Muran and Catherine Eubanks
The Heart & Soul of Change: Delivering What Works by Duncan et al
Handbook of Psychotherapy and Behavior Change edited by Michael Lambert
Psychotherapy Relationships That Work (Vol 1 & 2) edited by Norcross & Wampold
Common Factors in Couple and Family Therapy edited by Sprenkle et al
The Great Psychotherapy Debate by Bruce Wampold
How and Why are Some Therapists Better Than Others? edited by Castonguay & Hill
The Cycle of Excellence: Using Deliberate Practice to Improve Supervision and Training edited by Rousmaniere et al
The Person of the Therapist Training Model: Mastering the Use of Self edited by Aponte & Kissil
On Emotionally Focused Therapy
Creating Connection: The Practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy with Couples by Susan Johnson
Becoming an Emotionally Focused Therapist: The Workbook by Furrow et al
Emotionally Focused Family Therapy by Furrow et al
Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy by Johnson & Campbell
Attachment Theory in Practice by Sue Johnson
Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy with Trauma Survivors by Susan Johnson
Stepping Into Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy by Lorrie Brubacher
On Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy
The Undoing of Aloneness and Transformation of Suffering into Flourishing: AEDP 2.0 edited by Diana Fosha
The Transforming Power of Affect by Diana Fosha
Restoring Resilience by Eileen Russel
The Healing Power of Emotion edited by Diana Fosha
On Addiction
Addiction as an Attachment Disorder by Philip Flores
Sex Addiction as Affect Regulation by Alexandra Katehakis
Motivational Interviewing by William Miller and Bill Rollnick
Motivating Substance Abusers to Enter Treatment: Working With Family Members by Jane Smith
Harm Reduction Psychotherapy by Andrew Tartarsky
Part of the Rest of My Recommended Book Pile
The Barefoot Helper by Mark Hamer
The Gift of Therapy by Irvin Yalom
Emotion Focused Therapy for Complex Trauma by Sandra Paivio
The Marriage Clinic by John Gottman
Maps of Narrative Practice by Michael White
The Art of Psychotherapy by Anthony Storr
Changing Character by Leigh McCullough Vallaint
Co-Creating Change by Jon Frederickson
Co-Creating Safety by Jon Frederickson
The Shadow of the Tsunami and the Growth of the Relational Mind by Philip Bromberg
Dialogical Meetings in Social Networks by Seikkula and Arnkil
Reaching Through Resistance by Allan Abbass
Assessing Adult Attachment: A Dynamic-Maturational Approach to Discourse Analysis by Patricia Crittenden
The Bonds of Love: Psychoanalysis, Feminism and the Problem of Domination by Jessica Benjamin
My Grandmother's Hands by Resmaa Menakem
The Tree of Knowledge by Maturana and Variela
Mothers and Others by Sarah Blaffert Hrdy
The Origin of Humanness in the Biology of Love by Maturana and Verden-Zoller
The Great Mental Models by Farnam Street
How Emotion is Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett
The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haight
Tribe by Sebastian Junger
Other Therapists for Referrals
(Similar post-graduate training to me)
International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy - https://www.iceeft.com/ - This is the global organization for Emotionally Focused Therapy therapists where you can find EFT therapists internationally.
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute - https://www.aedpinstitute.org/ - This is the global organization for Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy therapists, where you can find AEDP therapists internationally.
Doherty Relationship Institute - https://www.discernmentcounseling.com - This is the Doherty Relationship Institute's website for Discernment Counseling and Certified Counselors.
Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy Institute - https://www.aedpinstitute.org/ - This is the global organization for Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy therapists, where you can find AEDP therapists internationally.
Doherty Relationship Institute - https://www.discernmentcounseling.com - This is the Doherty Relationship Institute's website for Discernment Counseling and Certified Counselors.
Internet Resources
On Addiction
http://the20minuteguide.com/ - online guide to CRAFT (Community Reinforcement And Family Training), and empirically-validated approach for parents and partners of loved ones with drug, alcohol, or behavior problems to get their loved ones to enter treatment (This is the science-based and kind way... not like the shows on TV where an "intervention" takes place)
http://www.smartrecovery.org/ - online information about Self Management And Recovery Training (SMART), a self help and mutual support group for people who want to stop drinking, using drugs, or engaging in compulsive behaviors
https://trianglesmartrecovery.org/ - online information and list for Self Management And Recovery Training (SMART) Groups in the Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill area
http://www.overcomingaddictions.net/ - website for people who want to stop drinking, using drugs, or engaging in compulsive behaviors using an evidence based online self help app
http://www.drinkerscheckup.com/ - website for people curious about how their drinking is impacting their lives
http://moderation.org/ - website to learn about Moderated Drinking, an empirically-validated approach to changing alcohol use (because abstinence isn't for everyone even though it's the least harmful)
On Trauma
http://www.trauma-pages.com/ - David Baldwin's writings on trauma resources for the public and professionals
http://www.isst-d.org/ - International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation website for public and professionals to learn about trauma
http://the20minuteguide.com/ - online guide to CRAFT (Community Reinforcement And Family Training), and empirically-validated approach for parents and partners of loved ones with drug, alcohol, or behavior problems to get their loved ones to enter treatment (This is the science-based and kind way... not like the shows on TV where an "intervention" takes place)
http://www.smartrecovery.org/ - online information about Self Management And Recovery Training (SMART), a self help and mutual support group for people who want to stop drinking, using drugs, or engaging in compulsive behaviors
https://trianglesmartrecovery.org/ - online information and list for Self Management And Recovery Training (SMART) Groups in the Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill area
http://www.overcomingaddictions.net/ - website for people who want to stop drinking, using drugs, or engaging in compulsive behaviors using an evidence based online self help app
http://www.drinkerscheckup.com/ - website for people curious about how their drinking is impacting their lives
http://moderation.org/ - website to learn about Moderated Drinking, an empirically-validated approach to changing alcohol use (because abstinence isn't for everyone even though it's the least harmful)
On Trauma
http://www.trauma-pages.com/ - David Baldwin's writings on trauma resources for the public and professionals
http://www.isst-d.org/ - International Society for the Study of Trauma and Dissociation website for public and professionals to learn about trauma
